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Good things come to those who wait? Or a door will open for you somewhere. Every time I hear someone tell somebody something like this, I just think – What? What world are they living in?
Be the leader you were meant to be. Lead your team members where they need to go. Make your life happen even if you have to kick down some doors.
You have to hustle day in and day out to create the future you want. There is no waiting or sitting back hoping someone else will open a door for you.
If you are a leader, then lead! This is your hustle. Get your grind on.
The whole “good things come to those who wait” notion is a fallacy for most of us. The truth that what most of us experience is that doors don’t just open and good things don’t just come because we wait for them. I don’t presume to know that this hasn’t been and is not the truth for someone, somewhere, somehow. Maybe good things have come to some who have waited. Maybe some doors have indeed been opened for some. I accept that these statements might be true for the people who said them, came up with them or coined them some time ago. Maybe this was their reality, maybe it is their children’s reality – but it is not mine, and it isn’t the reality for any accomplished and successful people I know.
What propels you?
I have been asking people this question a lot lately because I am very interested in what drives people to excel, what motivates their discipline and what steps they take to realize their dreams. In all my conversations and research, what I have learned is that successful and fulfilled leaders are not waiting for anything to happen. Instead, they pay the price that leadership and career advancement require – they hustle.
“I don’t believe that old cliché that good things come to those who wait. I think good things come to those who want something so bad they can’t sit still.” — Ashton Kutcher
Here’s How I See It. Waiting for good things to happen and hoping for someone to open a door reflects a passive and undetermined path to career and leadership success, and just the thought of it leaves me feeling powerless. I read somewhere a long time ago that “The dream is real, but the hustle is sold separately.” Boy, there is some straight truth for us all in that message!
This is your life. This is your career. This is the best test of your leadership.
We have to step up and lead our own journeys, create our own experiences and carve our own paths. This is not a trial rehearsal, a pre-test or practice exam. This. Is. It. And how we choose to focus our energies and use our time is a choice we have to live with. Think about this. Given the seriousness of these choices,
who among us really wants to sit around “waiting” for something good to come or happen?
who among us is waiting around for someone else to open a door?
who wants to yield all of his or her power to the whim of someone else’s choices?
Are you aiming to win the most patient person of the year award?
If your goal is to learn patience, then wait. If you goal is to learn disappointment, then wait.
If your goal is to waste time, then wait. If you goal is limited to hope – then wait.
Yes. Sometimes miracles happen. In the very rare instance, maybe a door will indeed be opened to you just out of the blue. In the very rare instance, maybe good things will come to you even when you haven’t worked for them. Maybe this could happen but only in the very rare instance. If you have the patience, go ahead and wait.
While you wait, here is what hustlers and leaders will do:
They will pay the price to make it happen! I agree – hope is good. I have a lot of hope and a lot of faith for a better tomorrow. But I know that we have to go out there and hustle. We have to face our fears and push through them. We have to do things we don’t feel like doing. We have to demonstrate unusual levels of discipline. We have to struggle, to focus and to commit to a goal. We have to want it bad enough to make sacrifices and not be deterred by the many, many obstacles that are surely to be in our paths.
So often I get asked things like “What did you do to overcome obstacles; what did you do to get where you are; what did you do to (go ahead and fill in the blank)?” My answer is not any different from what most of you have done.
I figured out where I wanted to go and then paid the price to get there. I did that more than 20 years ago when I was beginning my education and career, and I still do this today. Figure out what you want and then pay the price to get there.
This is the rift for most people though – THAT PRICE.
Everything has a price, and you have to want what you want so badly that you are willing to pay the price to get it. It is not easy for anyone. Success involves making difficult choices, and leaders make these choices everyday. It involves going through some fire. It involves consequences we’d rather not experience. It involves consistency, determination, perseverance, persistence, and discipline. Anything worthwhile has a price. Well actually, even not wanting or pursuing anything has a price.
But to demonstrate leadership and advance your career, you will need to pay the price. The price could be things like building a door where there is none, kicking in a door that has been closed to you, and even being willing to close some doors as well. The price is time, money, emotions, risk, courage, change, discomfort, effort, work, study, discipline, focus, etc. The price is real.
The Price Requires a Sense of Urgency…
If you want it bad enough, muster up all the courage and leadership you have and take that first step now.
- If your goal is to accomplish something, hustle now.
- If your goal is to experience something you have never experienced, do something you have never done now.
- If your goal is to get a pay raise, ask for it now.
- If your goal is to get a promotion, go for it now.
- If your goal is to have your boss or colleagues treat you better, explain this to them now.
- If you goal is to be happy, drop the things that create misery now.
- If your goal is to experience joy, exclude people or things that bring you pain now.
- If your goal is to have meaningful relationships, put the effort in to build them now.
- If your goal is to get different, then be different now.
- If your goal is to experience It – whatever “It” is – Make. It. Happen. Now.
You tell me –
- Do you believe that good things come to those who wait?
- Whether you do or not, why have you come to that answer?
- What kind of price have you had to pay to achieve your personal or professional success?
- What has leadership cost you?
- What advice would you give those who are hoping for a better tomorrow?
CEO, ARVis Institute
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